There’s only one way to step out of the cycle of blaming ourselves for blaming ourselves, and that’s to celebrate the value of self-blame in certain environments.
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Read MoreThe only real buffer humans have against the abject absurdity and impossibility of existence is compassionate holding of our experience. The only way to such compassionate holding is through staying emotionally open to our own experience and the experience of others.
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Read MoreHow patterns of criticism and withdrawal apply to both couples and individuals, and what we can do about it.
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Read MoreIt can be frustrating when our counselor just won’t tell us what to do. Yet, there are often very good reasons why avoiding advice is the right choice for your psychologist to make in helping you best.
Read MoreProcrastination is an inherent feature of brains which seek to maximize reward. It can be exacerbated, however, by a worldview emphasizing achievement and perfection. Here are three simple steps to help keep us on track.
Read MoreHow do we answer the question “who am I?” While it can seem like this must be a solo journey of self-discovery, we can only truly know who we are by how we are reflected in relationship with others…
Read MoreWork is deeply intertwined with our sense of identity. Yet, when it becomes intertwined with our worth it can take on a very different sort of dimension….
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