Because we already have a shared understanding of your relationship, these intensives let us go deeper into the places that are hard to reach in weekly sessions. In the weeks leading up to your intensive, we’ll talk together about what you want to focus on and what feels most important to work through.

During the intensive, you can expect:

• More emotional depth than a weekly session allows. We’ll stay with moments that usually get cut off by the clock.

• A slower, steadier pace. There’s room for your body to settle and for emotions to come forward naturally.

• New insights about yourself and your partner. When you have uninterrupted time, things surface that don’t always show up in shorter sessions.

• Bigger feelings — with support. You may access emotions you haven’t touched before, and we’ll move through them at a pace that feels manageable.

• Breaks. A 3‑hour intensive is typically held straight through. A 4‑hour intensive includes one short break, and a 2-day intensive will have several breaks included so you have time to reset and stay grounded.

• Fatigue afterward. It’s normal to feel tired, reflective, or tender after this kind of work. Couples are encouraged to plan gentle time for themselves afterward.

A two‑day intensive gives us the time needed to understand your relationship, meet with each of you individually, and begin the deeper work together. It’s not meant as a quick fix, but a focused jumpstart — a way to create clarity and momentum that weekly therapy can continue to build on. Each day includes approximately 5–6 hours of focused work, with breaks throughout.

Day 1: Understanding the Relationship

• Session 1 (90 minutes): Joint session to understand what brings you in and what’s been happening between you.

• Session 2 (60–90 minutes): Individual session with Partner A.

• Session 3 (60–90 minutes): Individual session with Partner B.

• Session 4 (90 minutes): Our first couples session after we’ve spent time understanding your relationship. We’ll begin slowing things down enough to see what happens between you in real time and start making sense of the pattern that pulls you into disconnection.

Day 2: The Deeper Work

Day 2 includes approximately 5–6 hours of focused work, with breaks, divided into three extended sessions. This day is devoted to going deeper into the trickiest moments where you miss each other, giving you enough space to access the emotions that make connection possible.

• Session 1 (90-120 minutes)

• Session 2 (90-120 minutes)

• Session 3 (90-120 minutes)

You can expect to feel tired afterward — not depleted, but in the way you might feel after a long, meaningful conversation. Couples are encouraged to plan gentle time for themselves after each day.

Note: For couples who are already in ongoing therapy, the structure may be adjusted slightly depending on what you’ve already covered and where you’re feeling most stuck.

A 50% non‑refundable deposit is required within 48 hours of scheduling to reserve an intensive. For one‑day intensives, the remaining balance will be charged at the end of the intensive. For two‑day intensives, the remaining balance will be charged at the end of each day.

Because intensives require significant preparation and weekend availability, cancellations or rescheduling within 10 days are subject to the full fee. In cases of acute illness (fever, vomiting) or sudden death in the family, a one‑time courtesy reschedule may be offered, though the deposit remains non‑refundable.

How do we know if an intensive is the right fit for us?

An intensive is a good fit when both partners share a desire to understand what’s happening between them and want focused time to work on it together. Many couples choose this format when weekly therapy hasn’t been possible, hasn’t created enough movement, or has started to feel plateaued. It’s also helpful for couples who have tried other models and felt stalled, or whose patterns move quickly and need more space to slow down and make sense of what’s happening. In the consultation, Dr. Ko will talk through your goals and determine whether this structure is the best use of your time and energy.

Is an intensive only for couples in crisis?

No. Intensives are not only for crisis — they’re for clarity, movement, and depth. Many couples come because they want to understand their pattern more clearly, reconnect, or get unstuck after feeling stalled in weekly therapy. You do not need to be in crisis to benefit from extended, focused time together.

What would make us not a good fit for an intensive?

Some situations require a different level of support or a different structure. An intensive is not appropriate when:

• There is an active, ongoing affair that has not been disclosed or stabilized

• There is untreated addiction that significantly impacts the relationship

• One or both partners do not feel physically or emotionally safe in the same room

• There is concern that what’s shared in therapy will be used against the other partner

• There are mixed agendas (one partner wants to work on the relationship, the other does not)

• The couple is separated

During the consultation, Dr. Ko will assess whether an intensive is a good use of your time and money. She will not move forward with an intensive if she does not believe you can benefit from it.

What if one of us isn’t good with emotions or EFT‑type work?

This is extremely common — and EFT is designed for exactly this. You do not need to be “good at feelings” to benefit from an EFT intensive. Dr. Ko will guide the process, slow things down, and help each partner access what’s underneath in a way that feels manageable. Many partners who start out unsure or uncomfortable find the therapeutic process to be grounding and clarifying.

How is an intensive different from weekly couples therapy?

Weekly therapy offers steady support in shorter segments. Intensives provide extended, uninterrupted time to slow down what happens between you, understand your pattern, and work with your most difficult moments in a spacious way. The immersive format gives us enough time to stay with what’s emerging and follow it further than a traditional 50‑minute session allows.

How do I schedule an intensive as a new client?

Dr. Ko offers free 30-minute consultations with both partners present to assess whether you and your partner are a good fit for an intensive. The consultation is a chance to talk through what’s been happening in your relationship, what you’re hoping for, and whether an intensive is the right structure for your goals and capacity. Dr. Ko will walk you through the format, answer questions, and help assess fit. If it feels like a good match, she will share the paperwork and scheduling details; if an intensive is not appropriate, she will recommend other resources and/or structures for therapy that better support your situation.

What if we’re already working with another couples therapist?

Many couples come to an intensive while working with another therapist. The intensive can complement ongoing work by giving you focused time to slow down the cycle, see what’s happening between you more clearly, and begin shifting the places where you’re getting stuck. If helpful, Dr. Ko can provide a brief summary of themes or shifts for you to bring back to your therapist.

Do you take insurance or offer superbills?

Intensives are a self‑pay service and are not billable to insurance. Superbills are not provided for intensive work, as this format is not typically covered by insurance plans.

What is your cancellation policy?

Please see the full Deposit & Cancellation Policy above for details. Because intensives require significant time and preparation, the policy is firm and designed to protect the time and structure needed for this work for both partners and for Dr. Ko.

What happens after an intensive?

Before you leave, we’ll talk together about what comes next so you have a clear sense of how to maintain the progress we attained. The goal is to choose the path that best supports the momentum you created during the intensive. This may include:

• returning to your existing therapist if you have one

• beginning/continuing weekly therapy with me

• scheduling another intensive

Aftercare is an important part of maintaining the gains made in an intensive. Upon request, couples may receive a written summary of the progress made during the intensive—something to help consolidate the gains and outline the most helpful next steps in the work.